A new video released on Thursday by journalist Yashar Ali on his Substack shows conservative commentator Steven Crowder berating his heavily pregnant wife for not doing “wifely” duties while warning her to “f–king watch it.” The nearly 3 1/2-minute video, from June 2021, shows a fight in the run-up to what Crowder has called a “horrendous divorce.”
During the video, Crowder’s wife, Hilary, repeatedly tries to reassure her husband that she loves him and is “committed.” However, Crowder allegedly later threatened his wife inside their house, saying, “I will f–k you up.”
The video starts with Crowder smoking as he berates Hilary for not adhering to the “boundaries” he had set for her. As his wife tries to leave their home, he tells her, “You are not taking the car, because if you refuse to do wifely things then I will go pick up the groceries.” His distressed wife quietly notes that they do not need groceries, and offers to pick up anything he needs while she is out.
Still, Crowder snaps, “I can’t go to the gym. I can’t go to my parents. I can’t call my friends. … Hilary, just think of how boxed in you’ve made me!” As his wife breathes deeply and appears to fight back tears, he tells her that “the only way out of it is discipline and respect.”
Hilary again offers to get her husband’s grocery needs and says she needs “some space,” telling him, “I love you — I love you very much.” However, Crowder cruelly replies, “I don’t love you, that’s the big problem.”
He complains that when he asks his wife to do things, she should be disciplined about it and not say no, ordering her to “become worthy — wife worthy.” He asks her, “Are you committed enough to do those things? … walk the dogs and put on some gloves. Are you committed enough to get the medication?” referring to a treatment for the dogs that Hilary feared would be toxic for pregnant women.
Crowder admitted on audio to his “f–k you up” threat after the couple went inside the house, realizing he went too far, according to Ali. Still, it was pivotal to his wife’s decision to finally file for divorce months later.
Before then, she gave birth to their twins in August 2021, but Crowder “chose not to be with his wife during the birth of their twin children,” Hilary’s family told Ali. They alleged that Hilary spent years hiding Steven’s mentally and emotionally abusive behavior from her friends and family while she attempted to save their marriage.
In a statement sent to Yashar Ali via email, Hilary Crowder’s family said:
“Hilary is currently living alone in Dallas, apart from her family and support system in Michigan, and is focused on taking care of her young children. She is not prepared at this time to speak about her divorce becoming public or the misleading statements made by Steven about their relationship.
The truth is that Hilary spent years hiding Steven’s mentally and emotionally abusive behavior from her friends and family while she attempted to save their marriage. She was the one who was asking to work on their relationship to keep the marriage intact for their unborn children.
In June of 2021, Steven left their home to pursue elective surgery. Hilary urged him to get the help he needed to address his abuse with the hope that their marriage could be saved and they could peacefully live together as a family. Instead, Steven refused to do so and chose not to be with his wife during the birth of their twin children. After the birth, Steven bought a townhouse and left their home permanently. Hilary was unaware that Steven had hired a divorce attorney and asked his assistant to cut Hilary off financially. There is significant documentation substantiating these facts.
We hope that Steven will cease speaking publicly about these personal matters in an untruthful manner. We also look forward to there being full transparency in the legal process so there is fairness and accountability for the actions that caused the divorce, and to ensure the outcome is what is in the best interests of the young children.”
Crowder has yet to address the footage. However, he told his “Louder With Crowder” audience earlier this week about his “horrendous divorce,” hinting at enemies trying to shame and extort him over it.
“It’s been the most heartbreaking experience in my life,” he said, calling the divorce “my deepest personal failure.” “I’ve always believed children need a mom and a dad and that divorce is horrible. And I still believe that children need a mom and a dad and that divorce is horrible.”